In the market, workplace, and life, many people often suffer from mental exhaustion. The root cause of mental exhaustion is actually dissatisfaction, lack of accurate understanding and clear awareness of the objective world, which leads to unrealistic expectations, and resentment towards others or things that do not meet their subjective wishes, and the inability to reconcile with reality in their hearts.
For example, you are a leek and you bought a coin. In the bull market, BTC has risen to more than $100,000, but the coin in your hand has not only not risen, but has fallen into floating losses. If you sell at a loss, you are afraid that it will take off again as soon as you sell at a loss, and you will be so angry; if you don’t sell at a loss, you will watch the price fall further and further behind the BTC. If you continue like this, you may waste your time and don’t know when it will end. So you fall into anxiety and internal consumption day after day.
For example, you are a white-collar worker who has worked in a small company for five or six years. The company has not made much progress. Your position and salary have also remained stagnant. Even in the past two years, the economic situation has been bad and the company has been shrinking. You are also worried that you will be laid off one day, or the company will simply go bankrupt. You envy your classmates in large companies who get promoted and raise their salaries every year, and receive generous year-end bonuses and stock rewards at the end of the year, but you think it is difficult for you to transfer to a large company. So every day you go to work numbly like a zombie, ringing the clock while feeling confused and exhausted.
For example, you are a mother who has arranged everything for your child since he was young, and raised him to be a very obedient, never rebellious, and indecisive "mama's boy". After your son grows up and gets married, he is also very obedient, submissive, and indecisive in front of his wife, and he completely obeys his wife's orders. You feel lost, and from loss to suffocation, you feel internal injuries, but you have no way to deal with it, and you can only be depressed and waste your energy.
The above three examples represent three typical symptoms of mental exhaustion. To treat the symptoms, there are three medicines that can cure mental exhaustion:
1. Either don’t do it or admit it.
2. If you can’t do it yourself, don’t expect things to happen or to have results.
3. Don’t have double standard expectations.
1. Either don’t do it or admit it.
"Acknowledge" means to accept any result from the bottom of your heart. "Acknowledge" means to be willing and have no regrets.
Whatever you do, you must admit it. If you can't admit it, don't do it.
If you buy a coin, either don’t buy it, or if you buy it, then you have to accept the consequences, whether it goes up or down, whether you make a profit or a loss. Don’t just think about winning, think about losing. If you lose, can you admit defeat?
When it comes to something, either don't agree to it, or if you agree, then no matter whether it is easy or difficult, whether there is a reward or not, you should not only do it, but also accept it. That is to say, although the difficulty of doing things is far beyond your imagination when you agreed to it, and you don't get the expected reward after doing it, and maybe you don't even get a thank you, can you do it without any resentment?
When you are together with a person, either don't be together, or if you are together, then no matter what advantages and disadvantages the other person has, you must love each other, get along well with each other, and stay together for the rest of your life. Don't reject it, and don't regret it.
The best time to say "no" is always before you start. Start with caution.
Once you start, you are on a road that cannot be turned back. If you win, be thankful for your luck; if you lose, accept your failure. In any case, the past is the result of your initial choice and is a foregone conclusion; the future has not yet begun, and the key to choice is still in your hands at this moment.
Accepting reality is to reconcile with oneself. It is to deeply realize that the ending is determined by one's initial adventure.
If life is a gamble, then you must first learn to accept defeat.
The stubbornness of refusing to admit defeat will not make you win.
Only by wisely refusing to embark on the path to losing before you start will you increase your chances of choosing the path to winning.
If you are halfway through your journey, you must first rationally acknowledge the past, recognize the reality, and get rid of mental exhaustion, so that you can better stand in the present and grasp the future.
Recognition does not mean accepting one’s fate, but rather acknowledging the past and recognizing reality.
Adhering to this principle will force us to think from the end to the beginning in everything, to speak ugly words to ourselves first, and before starting, not only think about good things or beautiful things, but fully consider whether we can bear to admit defeat if we fail.
Before buying a coin, you should consider what is the maximum loss you can bear if you lose money or even lose everything. If the maximum loss you can bear (after fully evaluating your economic conditions) is 100,000 yuan, then no matter how optimistic you are about this coin, you should never invest more than 100,000 yuan in it.
A friend asks you to borrow 100,000 yuan. Before you agree, think carefully: if the other party does not pay back the money, can you accept the loss? If not, then don't lend it.
Before you give to your family or to the people you love (such as your partner or children), ask yourself: If your efforts do not bring you the results you want, can you not get angry, complain that your lover "does not understand" or "does not give equally", or use moral sticks such as "the grace of raising a child" to suppress your child? If you cannot truly give without asking for anything in return or gratitude, then be cautious about entering into marriage or having children from the beginning.
Before handing an important task over to someone else, you should think clearly whether you can bear the possible consequences if the other party messes up. If you can't admit it and accept the consequences, then make a plan in advance and make sure it is thorough.
You do something without thinking about the consequences, and then when there is no result or reward, you cannot accept it in your heart, so you fall into endless mental exhaustion.
2. If you can’t do it yourself, don’t expect things to happen or to have results.
We need to acknowledge the past; regretting and blaming others will only have a counterproductive effect.
For the future, we need to work on it. Having unrealistic expectations or daydreaming will only lead to dashed hopes.
Doing means taking concrete actions. This includes doing it yourself, or leading others, exerting mobilization and organizational abilities, and working together to get things done. In either case, you need to take action yourself and work hard to complete it.
Good things will not happen automatically if you lie in bed and dream about the spring and autumn seasons.
If you don't know how to do something, or are unwilling to take action, or simply cannot do it due to your limited ability and energy, then don't have any unrealistic expectations or illusory hopes about the outcome of the matter.
In terms of investment, if you don’t have the capital and ability to make 100 million, don’t expect to make 100 million. If you don’t have the ability to work hard outside the market to get cash flow, and don’t have the endurance to go through the cycle, don’t expect to get ashore by hoarding BTC. If you don’t have first-level connections to get quotas, and don’t have the ability to get free chips by standing on the platform, don’t expect to get rich with the copycat project. If you don’t have excellent insider information speed and reaction ability, and don’t have a huge base of loyal fans who respond to everyone, don’t envy KOLs who make a lot of money by shill for meme coins.
At work, don’t just raise ideas, opinions, and suggestions. No matter how good your ideas are or how beautiful your words are, they are just empty talk. Whether you are a boss or an employee, as long as you can’t do what you say, then your ideas will definitely not be realized. Since they will not be realized, then the ideas you raised from the beginning are meaningless. Talking about ideas without implementing them is not work, it is performance work.
In life, if you don’t want to do something or you can’t do it yourself, don’t expect anyone to do it. For example, if you are very tired after get off work today and don’t want to clean the house, but you expect your partner to clean the house after get off work, then it is very likely that the other person doesn’t want to clean the house either, and conflicts will arise. If you don’t want to clean or can’t clean, then it’s best not to expect that the house will be cleaned today. Why not let it go? What’s the harm in not cleaning for one day? Clean it another day when you are both well rested and in a better mood!
Some people who invest always complain that the market is too bad, the sickle is too harsh, the platform is too shady, and the KOLs are all scammers. This is why they not only fail to make 100 million yuan, but also lose all their capital. In fact, you have no capital, no knowledge, no ability, no investment, and no speculation. It is best not to expect that blindly rushing in and getting rich overnight will happen to you.
Some bosses always scold their employees for being stupid and criticizing them for not being able to make 100 million for them. In fact, if you don’t have the ability to make 100 million yourself, why do you expect employees who you hire for 3,000 a month to help you make it?
Some people cannot get into Peking University or Tsinghua University, but they are upset when tutoring their children, blindly expecting their children to excel in their studies and get into Peking University or Tsinghua University. Imagine that you yourself cannot pass the college entrance examination, so why do you think that your children who inherited your genes must do well?
Pain and internal friction come from having false expectations of goals.
Don’t be goal-oriented in life. Otherwise, you will either be anxious or simply lose interest in doing things because the goal is too high or because you can’t see clearly whether it is possible to achieve it in the future.
Life should be process-oriented and interest-oriented to achieve happiness.
On this issue, modern management science has done a lot of harm. There is an important theory in management science called "managed by objectives". Simply put, it is to use tools such as KPI and OKR to turn the expectations of the boss or the upper-level manager into the goals of the lower-level executors. Then, it promotes the achievement of goals by combining reward and punishment incentive systems.
If the goal is unattainable, then all your hard work will only result in the pain of failure; if the goal is achievable, then you can achieve it with or without a goal.
True success is like the number 100…0. Hard work only adds 0s at the end, but what really determines whether the final result is a big number or zero is the 1 at the beginning, and this 1 is often not determined by you.
Just like investing in BTC. All you can do is buy, hold and wait. As for profit or loss, whether you get rich or lose everything, it depends on the future price of BTC, but you have almost no control over the future price of BTC. You can only accept it, not expect it.
Setting a goal for your investment is like expecting BTC to rise to $1 million next year. It is a meaningless hope. If it can reach it, it will reach it whether you expect it or not; if it can’t reach it, it will not reach it whether you expect it or not.
Work hard on the cause and let fate take its course on the result.
Goals can be actions, such as writing an article every day, investing in BTC once a week, etc. Goals cannot be results, such as having 1 million fans in 3 years, making 100 million in 5 years, etc.
Don’t have expectations, don’t set goals, just like when Satoshi Nakamoto invented BTC, he didn’t set a target for BTC to reach 100,000 USD in a certain year, 1 million USD in a certain year, and so on. He only set a target for BTC to produce a block every 10 minutes and issue a BTC. The rest is up to time.
You have no desire to do it, or you are simply unable to do it with your own ability, but you still expect things to achieve the results you want. Of course, you will be disappointed and fall into mental exhaustion.
3. Don’t have double standard expectations.
Finally, another type of mental exhaustion is setting double standards in expectations of things.
People think BTC is too expensive, so they buy a small-cap air coin, but expect it to rise steadily like BTC .
I tell my secrets to my gossipy best friend in the office, but I think she will keep it for me.
I found a caring and warm man, but I hope he will only be warm to me and be cold to others.
Such things are essentially looking forward to the occurrence of double standards, and the side that is pure and beautiful is the good side. Isn't it just wishful thinking and only thinking about good things?
Any characteristics of any person or thing are both advantages and disadvantages. Advantages and disadvantages are two sides of the same coin and cannot be separated. If you want to get his advantages, you must also get his disadvantages. If you don't want to accept his disadvantages, you will definitely not be able to enjoy his advantages.
A strict leader may be a leader who is good at sharing benefits. A relaxed and permissive leader may be a leader who has no benefits to share.
A diligent and motivated partner may also be a partner who has no time to take care of the family. A partner who is obedient and has no opinions of his own may also be a partner who is easily brainwashed and controlled by others.
A On-Chain meme that has skyrocketed, attracted countless attention, and received shill may also be the On-Chain meme that has been most aggressively harvested. An Altcoin project with a large number of big-name investment institutions and a luxurious project team may also be an Altcoin project with a high degree of insider control and heavy selling pressure.
If you only see the side of things that is favorable to you or that you like, but ignore the side that is unfavorable to you or that you hate, or even expect things or people to only bring out the advantages of one trait and not the disadvantages of the same trait, then you will often be disappointed and resentful of reality, and thus fall into long-term mental exhaustion.
In short, think about the consequences before doing something, and once you do it, don't be obsessed with the results. Accept the results as they are. Don't just talk, take effective actions, don't set unrealistic goals, don't just want the good side and not the bad side, be prepared to accept the two sides of people and things. In short, accepting reality, not complaining, less fantasy, more practical work, is the best medicine to cure mental exhaustion.
