What is fair or not is your reaction to the event happened around your life. If your mental state remain same in both sorrow and happiness. Fairness won’t be the topic of discussion anymore. The whole idea of living a life is to gather an immense mental and emotional strength to deal with unpredictable nature of events around life, most of them are now taken care by science. But you can’t avoid emotional manipulation any which ways even when you have all kind of resources, that means your emotional need to be taken care of at some point. You need love. God becomes an experience of love when you involve in service. God becomes a tool of wisdom when you concentrate deeply on a subject. God becomes nothing but everything when you surrender yourself fully embracing the unpredictable nature of life. When you decide to operate with the flow of life as it is without any trying to control over it you would get all those experiences which would make your realize there is a supreme being, a bigger ocean of energy whom your self belongs to.