In the market, workplace, and life, many people often suffer from mental exhaustion. The fundamental cause of mental exhaustion is actually unsatisfied desires, a lack of accurate understanding and clear awareness of the objective world, resulting in unrealistic expectations and harboring resentment towards others or things that do not meet one's subjective wishes, with the inner self unable to reconcile with reality.
For example, you are a leek who bought a coin. When BTC rises to over $100,000 during a bull market, your coin not only fails to rise but also falls into a loss. If you cut your losses, you've already done so multiple times, afraid it might take off right after selling, which would be a painful regret; if you don't cut losses, you'll watch it continuously underperform BTC, potentially wasting time without knowing when it will end. Thus, you fall into daily anxiety and mental exhaustion.
For example, you are a junior white-collar worker who has been working in a small company for five or six years. The company shows no significant progress. Your position and salary remain stagnant. In recent years, with the poor economic situation and the company contracting, you worry about being laid off or the company going bankrupt. You envy colleagues in big companies who get promoted and receive substantial year-end bonuses and stock rewards, but you know transitioning to a big company is difficult. So, you go to work like a zombie, punching the clock, feeling lost and mentally exhausted.
For example, you are a mother who has meticulously arranged everything for your child, cultivating a completely obedient, never rebellious, and spineless "mama's boy" personality. After your son gets married, he remains extremely obedient to his wife, submissive and without any personal opinion, completely following his wife's commands. You feel disappointed, from disappointment to suppressed anger, suffering internal injury with no solution, only able to feel frustrated and mentally exhausted.
The above three examples represent three typical symptoms of mental exhaustion. To treat this, here are three remedies that can cure mental exhaustion:
One: Either don't do it, or accept it.
Two: If you can't do it yourself, don't expect anything to happen or have a result.
Three: Do not have double-standard expectations.
One: Either don't do it, or accept it.
"Accepting" means genuinely accepting any outcome from the heart. "Accepting" means being willing and without regret.
For anything. If you do it, accept it. If you can't accept it, don't do it.
For a coin, either don't buy it, or if you buy it, accept whether it rises or falls, profits or losses. Don't just think about winning; consider losing. If you lose, can you accept it?
For a task, either don't promise, or if you promise, accept whether it's easy or difficult, with or without reward. Not only must you complete the task, but you must also accept it - meaning, even if the hardship far exceeds your initial imagination, and you don't receive the expected reward or even a thank you, can you do so without any resentment?
For a relationship, either don't be together, or if you are, accept each other's strengths and weaknesses, love and get along well, stay together for life, without rejection or regret.
The best time to say "no" is always before beginning. Begin cautiously.
Once you begin, you're on an irreversible path. If you win, be grateful for luck; if you lose, accept failure. Regardless, the past is the result of your initial choice and is now set; the future has not yet begun, and the choice's key is still in your hand.
Accepting reality is reconciling with yourself. It is a profound recognition that the outcome is determined by your initial adventure.
If life is a bold gamble, you must first learn to be willing to lose.
Stubborn refusal to lose will not make you win.
Wisely refusing to step onto the path of losing before beginning will increase your chances of choosing the path to winning.
If you've reached halfway, first rationally acknowledge the past, recognize reality, break free from mental exhaustion, and then better grasp the future's path from the present.
"Accepting" is not accepting fate, but acknowledging the past, recognizing reality.
Adhering to this principle will force us to always think with "the end in mind," being brutally honest with ourselves, not just thinking about good things before starting, but fully considering whether we can bear losing if we fail.
Before buying a coin, consider the maximum loss you can mentally bear. If your maximum bearable loss after fully assessing economic conditions is 100,000 yuan, then no matter how optimistic you are about the coin, never invest more than 100,000 yuan in principal.
If a friend asks to borrow 100,000 yuan, consider beforehand: can you accept the loss if they don't repay? If not, don't lend.
Before dedicating to family or loved ones, ask yourself: if your dedication doesn't yield the expected result, can you avoid harboring resentment, not complaining about lack of understanding or equal effort, not using moral leverage like "parental kindness" to suppress children? If you cannot make a pure, unconditional contribution, then be cautious about entering marriage or having children.
Before entrusting an important task to someone, thoroughly consider if you can bear potential consequences if they fail. If you can't accept the outcome, prepare a comprehensive backup plan.
Doing something without considering the consequences, then being unable to accept the lack of results, leads to endless mental exhaustion.
Two: If you can't do it yourself, don't expect anything to happen or have a result.
For the past, accept it; regret and blaming others will only be counterproductive.
For the future, do it; being ambitious but lacking skills and daydreaming will only lead to disappointment.
"Doing" means taking concrete action yourself, which includes personal involvement and leading others, utilizing organizational and motivational abilities to collectively accomplish something. Either way requires personal action and effort.
Lying in bed dreaming will not make good things happen automatically.
For things you don't know how to do, are unwilling to act on, or are fundamentally unable to do due to capacity limitations, do not have any unrealistic expectations or vague hopes about the outcome.
In investing, don't expect to earn 100 million without the capital and ability. Without the skill to grind outside and generate cash flow, without the patience to hold BTC through cycles, don't expect to make it big. Without top-tier connections for quota, without the ability to get free chips from platforms, don't expect to get rich with altcoin projects. Without exceptional insider information speed and responsiveness, without a massive, loyal fan base, don't envy KOLs shilling MEME coins and making a fortune.
At work, don't just propose ideas, suggestions, or opinions. No matter how good or beautiful they sound, they're just empty talk. Whether you're a boss or an employee, if you can't turn words into action, your ideas won't materialize. Since they won't be realized, your ideas are meaningless from the start. Discussing ideas without implementation is not work; it's a performance.
In life, don't expect anyone to do things you don't want to do or can't do yourself. For example, if you're tired after work and don't want to clean, but expect your partner to clean, you might encounter a situation where they also don't want to clean, leading to conflict. If you don't want to or can't clean, don't expect cleaning to happen. Let it go; what's wrong with not cleaning for a day? Clean when you're both rested and in a good mood!
Some people invest and always complain that the market is too manipulative, the sickle is too harsh, platforms are too dark, KOLs are all scammers, which makes them not only fail to earn a hundred million but also lose their principal. In fact, if you have no capital, no knowledge, no ability, can't invest, and can't speculate, you'd better not expect blind luck to hit you.
Some bosses curse their employees as idiots, criticizing them for not helping them earn a hundred million. Actually, you can't even earn a hundred million yourself, so why expect employees with a 3000 monthly salary to help you earn it?
Some people who couldn't get into Peking or Tsinghua University become irritable while tutoring their children, blindly expecting them to excel academically and get into top universities. How can you expect your children to perform well in exams that you yourself couldn't pass?
Pain and mental exhaustion stem from incorrect expectations of goals.
Life should not be goal-oriented. Otherwise, you'll either be anxious or completely lose interest in doing things. Because the goal is too high, or because you can't see the possibility of achieving it in the future.
Life should be process-oriented and interest-oriented to gain happiness.
In this regard, modern management has been "deeply harmful". Management has an important theory called "management by objectives". Simply put, it uses tools like KPI and OKR to transform the expectations of bosses or upper-level managers into goals for lower-level executors. Then, through a combination of rewards and punishments, it drives goal achievement.
If the goal is unattainable, you'll only taste the pain of failure after hard work; if the goal is achievable, you can do it with or without a goal.
True success is like the number 100...0. Effort is just adding zeros, but what really determines the final result is the initial 1, which is often not determined by you.
Like investing in BTC. All you can do is buy, hold, and wait. As for profits and losses, getting rich or going to zero depends on BTC's future price, which you can hardly determine at all. You can only accept it, not expect it.
Setting an investment goal, like expecting BTC to reach $100,000 next year, is a futile hope. If it can reach that, it will, regardless of your expectations; if it can't, it won't, regardless of your expectations.
Effort on the cause, acceptance of the result.
Goals can be actions, like writing an article every day or consistently investing in BTC weekly. Goals cannot be results, like having 1 million followers in 3 years or earning 100 million in 5 years.
Satoshi Nakamoto didn't preset BTC to reach $10,000 or $100,000 in specific years when inventing BTC. He only set BTC to generate a block approximately every 10 minutes, issuing a BTC. The rest is left to time.
When you have no intention to do something or can't do it with your abilities, yet expect the result to happen as you wish, you'll naturally be disappointed and fall into mental exhaustion.
Third, don't have double standards of expectation.
The last type of mental exhaustion is setting double standards for expectations.
Complaining that BTC is too expensive, buying a low-cap altcoin, yet expecting it to rise steadily like BTC.
Telling a gossip-loving office friend a secret, yet expecting them to keep it.
Finding a caring boyfriend, yet hoping he's only warm to you and cold to others.
These are essentially expectations of double standards, hoping for only the good and beautiful side. Isn't this wishful thinking?
Any quality of any person or thing is simultaneously an advantage and a disadvantage. Advantages and disadvantages are two sides of the same coin, inseparable. To get their advantages, you must also accept their disadvantages. If you don't accept their disadvantages, you can't enjoy their advantages.
A strictly demanding leader might also be a leader good at sharing benefits. A lenient, permissive leader might be one with no benefits to share.
A diligent partner might also be a partner with no time for family. A compliant partner with no opinions might also be easily brainwashed and controlled by others.
An on-chain meme coin that continuously surges and attracts attention, with big names shilling, might also be the most brutal in dumping and harvesting. A high-profile altcoin project with top investment institutions and a luxurious team might also have high insider token control and heavy unlocking selling pressure.
Only seeing the favorable or likable side of things, ignoring the unfavorable or detestable side, and even expecting things or people to only display the advantages of a trait without its disadvantages, will often lead to disappointment and resentment towards reality, falling into long-term mental exhaustion.
In summary, consider the consequences before acting, and once done, don't be attached to the result. Accept whatever the result is. Don't talk empty words, take practical and effective actions. Don't set unrealistic goals, don't only want the good side without the bad side, and be prepared to accept the two sides of people and things. In short, accept reality, don't complain, less daydreaming, more practical work - this is the best medicine for mental exhaustion.
